The Time-In ToolKit is a step-by-step guide that nurtures social and emotional skills.
The ToolKit gives you everything you need to create a calming space for children ages 3-9+ for use in homes, classrooms, daycare centers, therapy settings and more.
The ToolKit is adaptable for children of diverse neurological capabilities. It can be used by anyone committed to teaching children by example, replacing punishment with connection, redirection, and discipline.
One ToolKit is all you need per family or entire classroom, and it can be used in conjunction with our other EQ building products including: SnuggleBuddies, Online Positive Parenting course, Feelings Bingo, extra posters, and card sets.
- PeaceMakers Mindfulness Card Game: 42 Cards plus instructions
- 35 Resealable Animal Stickers
- Meet the PeaceMakers Poster (works with the stickers): 20" x 30”
- My Calming Strategies Poster: 20" x 30"
- 32 Feeling Faces Poster: 12" x 16"
- PeaceMakers Feel Many Emotions Poster: 12" x 16"
- My Calming Corner Poster: 8" x 10"
- Calming Steps Poster: 8” x 10”
- My Feelings Card Set
- Calming Corner Activity Mat: 8” x10” (no need to frame this)
- 8-page full color printed Mini-Manual
- 32 sticky tabs to hang the six posters if you decide not to frame them
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- Creating A Calming Corner & Using Time-Ins: 50 pages of instructions (PDF)
- Bonus Printables (PDF): This 40 page set of printables comes at the end of your Digital Manual to help you make Time-In's more engaging in your home, school and/or therapy practice. Because these sheets are PDF's, they can be used with multiple children at no extra cost to you.
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We recommend IKEA frames for quality and price for your six posters. The posters are two of each: 8"x10", 12" x 16" and 20" x 30" for a total of six. The RIBBA frame line by IKEA has a 24" x 36" frame with a mat that works well with the 20" x 30" posters.
Below is a photo of the Calming Strategies Poster (20" x 30") from the ToolKit in the 24" x 36" frame from IKEA.
HOW DOES IT WORK?
We can meet children where they are, socially and emotionally, teaching them with loving, clear, and consistent boundaries, free from shame, blame, and pain.
STEP ONE: SET UP A SAFE SPACE
Set up a cozy, inviting space and establish your personal Calming Corner guidelines. The ToolKit comes with the "Creating a Calming Corner" manual devoted to holding your hand through this process. Hang your posters using the sticky tabs provided or frame them before hanging.
STEP TWO: TEACH CHILDREN HOW TO NAME EMOTIONS
The first step to emotional regulation is awareness. The playful games that come with the Time-In ToolKit make thinking, talking and learning about emotions fun! With practice, children will quickly begin to recognize the four different mood groups we all feel in the average day. Children will intrinsically want to visit their Calming Corner when they can notice and name their emotions.
For example, this poster teaches kids that even their friends, the PeaceMakers, feel all four types of emotions: anger/fear (red), sadness (blue), calm (green), and happy (yellow).
STEP THREE: CONNECT/REGULATE
After listening to your child identify their emotions, the Time-In ToolKit includes a list of calming strategies. The behaviors we are looking for from children are easier to learn when they are feeling safe and connected to another human being, ideally the adult in the room. Connection builds compliance which is why intentional calming strategies are sacred.
Use your Calming Corner on a regular basis! There will no longer be a need to put children in forced Time-Outs. Children (and adults!) can take a Time-In instead. The Calming Corner is an inviting "get-to" place kids go to feel better and to learn. Time-Ins are not a punishment.
All children deserve to feel powerful, safe, and connected.
Time-outs are punitive experiences that isolate a child from an environment for a set amount of time. Though punishment based discipline may lead to short-term compliance, they do not enhance moral behavior or teach children useful conflict-resolution skills (Hoffman).
Alternatively, time-ins are a way to help children learn to calm their body and process their emotions in a safe space so that they can problem-solve, learn, and grow. They empower children to check in with their bodies when they are feeling strong emotions so that they can respond to situations rather than react.
35 Resealable Animal Stickers to use with the PeaceMakers Chart and PeaceMakers mindfulness card game.
The Time-In ToolKit makes connection a habit, nurturing children's social and emotional skills through everyday teaching moments. Here's an introduction to the ToolKit by a few children who have been using the Time-In approach with their mom and dad, incorporated the approach into their family life and homeschooling.
Lotus, age 7, after reading the PeaceMakers card "I am silly" to her mom.
FREE CALMING COLORING SHEETS
Interested in learning more about using Time-in's? Here's a free printable with eleven calming strategies for you to color and share with your children.
Just color, fold, staple, and turn your printables into a calming strategies booklet with children ages 3+. Or cut the cards out, add a key ring, and make a handy set of calming strategy cards you can take with you on the go.
These BONUS printable calming strategies are just a taste of what you'll find inside the complete Time-In ToolKit.
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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
I want to intrinsically motivate my children. Can you explain how the ToolKit does this and how this is different from behavioral charts that rely on extrinsic motivation?
The Time-In toolKit is built around skill building, and teaching children social and emotional skills via modeling, not by reward or punishment.
The Time-In ToolKit replaces the "behavioral management approach" by nurturing emotional intelligence in both children and adults. The kit's activities are built around emotional regulation, encouraging people of all ages to notice, name, and express thoughts and feelings. The stickers engage children and help them track which PeaceMakers cards have been talked about, serving as a record of the learning that has occurred (Reggio Emilia). The stickers are not a reward nor are they given in exchange for a behavior.
For more on PeaceMakers, the positive affirmations/cards included in each kit, please visit here.
WHAT DOES SOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT IN EARLY CHILDHOOD LOOK LIKE?
Children experience the same emotions as adults. The difference is in the rapid mood swings and intensity of emotion. Temper tantrums are very common in early childhood. Toddlers in particular have very intense, but also short-lived emotions.
At this age, children normally find it hard to share. However, the day they will be spending a lot of their time interacting with other kids at school will soon come. This is why it’s crucial to teach them social skills and how to express emotions. The posters in the Time-In ToolKit make it fun and easy for children to identify and express emotion.
Examples of positive development in early childhood include cooperating with peers, being attentive to adults, and being capable of switching between activities smoothly and easily.
AT WHAT AGE DO KIDS UNDERSTAND EMOTIONS?
Studies suggest kids can grasp emotions as early as 4 months. Babies show preference or interest by looking at something for a longer period of time. In a study, infants were shown images of different facial expressions – ex. expressions of anger, sadness, or joy – and most of them spent more time looking at the “happy” photos.
Many infants can tell the difference between how different emotions are expressed vocally by the age of 5 months. In another study, infants were shown one single facial expression, but the emotional tone of voice changed. They started looking at the photo again immediately after the change of voice. For example, the baby was looking at a picture and hearing a happy voice. They lost interest in the photo and started looking elsewhere. When the voice changed – i.e. became angry or sad, their focus returned to the picture, and vice versa. This shows children at this age are sensitive to emotional changes in a voice.
HOW DO I TEACH MY TODDLER TO EXPRESS FEELINGS?
There are special games in the Time-In ToolKit that you can play with your kids to help them recognize feelings and foster empathy. Games are an engaging way to teach kids social competence and skills so they feel comfortable expressing their feelings. This is important because negative feelings will tend to dominate in many facets of their life in the absence of adequately developed social skills.
For toddlers, “adequately developed social skills” means learning to play well with others, having the ability to show empathy, and being able to share things. Children at the age of two normally show empathy – for example, a child this age will pat a crying child on the back to comfort him.
There are many things you can do to help your child develop social and emotional skills. Children learn by imitating, which is why parents are such important role models. If your child sees you being helpful, sharing things and feelings, and being grateful, they will imitate you. Eventually, they will develop a firm grasp of how to interact with others both at home and outside it. Playing a fun game with them and saying “please” and “thank you” with a smile is a nice start.
It is essential to praise your child when they demonstrate good social behavior. This way, they understand which forms of behavior are praiseworthy and encouraged. They also feel better about themselves. This plays an important role in fostering a sense of emotional competence and empathy. Children become more mindful and thoughtful if a positive climate is created at home, in which they can share their feelings without fear of punishment.
HOW DO YOU TEACH CALMING STRATEGIES?
It’s never a good idea to wait until a tantrum to begin teaching a calming strategy. Calming strategies are best taught at non-stressful times and through playing games. The My Calming Strategies Poster, which is part of the Time-In Toolkit, presents different strategies that will help children notice, name, share, and regulate their bodies and their minds.
Interacting with your child and allowing them to interact with peers is the best way to teach calming strategies and social competence. They might find playing with peers frustrating at first, because children are not born patient, but things will gradually get better with time.
Physical activities like stretching can be very calming and comforting to children. You could get your child to stand on their tip toes and reach up or down to touch their toes. Don’t rush from activity to activity; take your time.
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