What if "Stop crying" turned into "I'm listening" for an entire generation? The Time-In ToolKit is a guided resource that nurtures social and emotional skills in children and adults alike via play and positive discipline.
Children can be taught social and emotional skills in much the same way as they learn to read and write, through positive reinforcement and modeling, but most adults need tools and guidance to accomplish this.
One Time-In ToolKit is all you need per home or classroom. The many play-based activities in the ToolKit are easily adapted for use in diverse settings and with children of diverse neurological abilities.
For more options, see our new Time-In Toolkit Bundles with even more Time-In tools!
- The Original Time-In ToolKit includes:
> 6 illustrated posters to create a Calming Corner (frames not included)
> PeaceMakers Mindfulness Cards
> My Feelings Card Deck featuring 32 different feelings (x2 sets of cards)
> Laminated “What Can I Do” Activity Mat with 12 calming strategies cards
> Laminated Time-In Tools (Travel Version)
> Digital Manual with printables
For more savings, view our Original Time-In Toolkit Bundles, which include our children’s book Heart's Treasure Hunt, SnuggleBuddies plush for teaching kids to name/share their feelings, and more!
- The Ready-To-Hang Time-in ToolKit includes:
> 5 faux-framed, sturdy posters for a Calming Corner (ready to hang!)
> PeaceMakers Mindfulness Cards
> My Feelings Card Deck featuring 32 different feelings (x2)
> “What Can I Do” Activity Mat with 12 calming strategies
> Meet The PeaceMakers Activity Mat with Reusable Clings
> Laminated Travel Version Time-In ToolKit Poster
> Digital Manual with printables
For more savings, view our Ready-To-Hang Time-In Toolkit Bundles, which include our children’s book Heart's Treasure Hunt, SnuggleBuddies plush for teaching kids to name/share their feelings, and more!
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HOW DOES IT WORK?
Teach your children the social and emotional skills they need for a lifetime of success and happiness.
The Time-In ToolKit will help you adopt positive parenting strategies for managing conflict and misbehavior with clear boundaries that teach children vital relationship skills by example, managing conflict and misbehavior with clear boundaries that teach children vital relationship skills by example.
STEP ONE: SET UP A SAFE, CALMING SPACE
Your Time-In ToolKit Manual will guide you every step of the way as you set up a cozy, inviting space your child will want to visit. The posters and manual that come with your kit will also help you establish your personal Calming Corner guidelines, whether for a home, classroom or other setting.
The Time-In ToolKit comes with a beautifully illustrated 8-page mini-manual in every box and a more detailed Digital Manual to inspire social-emotional learning, connection, and fun for years to come.
STEP TWO: TEACH CHILDREN HOW TO NAME EMOTIONS
The first step to emotional regulation is awareness.
The playful activities included in the ToolKit make thinking, talking, and learning about emotions fun. With practice, children as young as age two and three begin to recognize the four different mood-groups we all feel in the average day.
This poster compliments the four emojis and the My Feelings Journal that come with every SnuggleBuddies perfectly!!! If your child is age 2+, we highly recommend pairing your Time-In ToolKit with a SnuggleBuddies plush of THEIR choice.
SnuggleBuddies are included with every ToolKit Bundle.
Picking out the animal is another step towards nurturing intrinsic motivation of the child and is sure to reinforce the success of your new Time-In space being a joyful, empowering experience.
STEP THREE: CONNECT/REGULATE
After helping your child identify and express their emotions, the Time-In ToolKit includes a list of calming strategies to help children practice managing those big emotions as well.
The behaviors we are looking for from children are easier for them to do when they are feeling safe and connected to another human being. Connection builds compliance which is why our tools help adults and children "connect before they correct".
When you begin to use your Calming Corner on a regular basis, there will no longer be a need to put children in forced time-outs. Children (and adults!) having challenging behaviors and/or feelings will take a Time-In instead.
The Time-In ToolKit will help you create is an inviting "get-to" place kids go to feel, think, share and learn.
Time-Ins are empowering, something children are proud of taking as opposed to a punishment.
All children deserve to feel powerful, safe and connected.
Time-outs are punitive experiences that isolate a child from an environment for a set amount of time. Though punishment based discipline may lead to short-term compliance, they do not enhance moral behavior or teach children useful conflict-resolution skills (Hoffman).
Alternatively, Time-Ins help children learn to calm their bodies and process their emotions so that they can problem-solve, learn, and grow. They empower children to check in with their bodies when they are feeling strong emotions so that they can practice responding to situations rather than reacting.
We have proudly donated over $50,000 worth of Generation Mindful materials to schools and families in need. Thank you for making our give-back program possible with your purchase.
The Time-In ToolKit includes six posters: two 20"x30", one 12"x16", and three 8"x10". We recommend IKEA frames for quality and price.
The RIBBA frame line by IKEA has a 19 3/4 x 27 1/2" frame that fits the 20" x 30" posters perfectly with a small trim of the white poster margin. Or you can use the 24" x 35 3/4" frame with matting as shown below.
RIBBA frames do not come with a hanging wire. We recommend mounting the posters to the wall using 3M adhesives for no drilling and easy removal.
The FISKBO line by IKEA is another framing option, or you shop online/area craft stores. Sticky tabs for hanging unframed posters are included as well.
Interested in learning more about using Time-in's? Get a free printable with eleven calming strategies for you to color and share with your children.
Sign up here for our FREE 4-Page Calming Strategies Coloring Sheets.
Just color, fold, staple, and turn your printables into a calming strategies booklet with children ages 3+. Or cut the cards out, add a key ring, and make a handy set of calming strategy cards you can take with you on the go.
These BONUS printable calming strategies are just a taste of what you'll find inside the complete Time-In ToolKit.
DO FRAMES COME WITH THE TIME-IN TOOLKIT? HOW DO YOU RECOMMEND I FRAME THE POSTERS?
We recommend IKEA frames for quality and price for your six posters. See above under the FRAMING tab for more details. Sticky tabs are included for hanging unframed or laminated posters. Frames do not come with your purchase.
I WANT TO INTRINSICALLY MOTIVATE MY CHILDREN. CAN YOU EXPLAIN HOW THE TOOLKIT DOES THIS AND HOW THIS IS DIFFERENT FROM CLIP CHARTS AND PUNISHMENT?
The Time-In toolKit is built around skill-building, and teaching children social and emotional skills via modeling, not by reward or punishment.
The Time-In ToolKit replaces both the punitive and/or a "behavioral management approach" by nurturing emotional intelligence in both children and adults. The many skill-building activities that come inside each kit are nurtured through the primary relationships a child has --- with their parents, siblings, and teachers.
The Time-In ToolKit encouraging people of all ages to notice, name, and express their thoughts and feelings. The animal stickers that come with the kit engage children and help them track which PeaceMakers cards they have pulled until they collect all 35, serving as a record of the learning that has occurred (Reggio Emilia). The stickers are not a reward nor are they given in exchange for a behavior.
For more on PeaceMakers, the positive affirmations/mindfulness cards included in each kit, please visit here.
WHAT DOES SOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT IN EARLY CHILDHOOD LOOK LIKE?
Children experience the same emotions as adults. The difference is in the rapid mood swings and intensity of emotion. Temper tantrums are very common in early childhood. Toddlers, in particular, have very intense, but also short-lived emotions.
At this age, children normally find it hard to share and typically lack impulse control. Rather than punishing children for not being born with social and emotional skills, we can nurture them. Just as we teach children to walk and talk, it’s crucial to teach children social skills and how to express emotions. The Time-In ToolKit and all our play-based tools turn this process into daily playful rituals!
Examples of positive development in early childhood include cooperating with peers, being attentive to adults, and being capable of switching between activities smoothly and easily.
AT WHAT AGE DO KIDS UNDERSTAND EMOTIONS?
Studies suggest kids can grasp emotions as early as 4 months. Babies show preference or interest by looking at something for a longer period of time. In a study, infants were shown images of different facial expressions – ex. expressions of anger, sadness, or joy – and most of them spent more time looking at the “happy” photos.
Many infants can tell the difference between how different emotions are expressed vocally by the age of 5 months. In another study, infants were shown one single facial expression, but the emotional tone of voice changed. They started looking at the photo again immediately after the change of voice. For example, the baby was looking at a picture and hearing a happy voice. They lost interest in the photo and started looking elsewhere. When the voice changed – i.e. became angry or sad, their focus returned to the picture, and vice versa.
Children are sensitive to emotional changes in a voice and it is never too early to establish positive discipline practices in a home. For nurturing social-emotional skills in infants and young toddlers, we highly recommend starting with our transformative Online Positive Parenting Course.
HOW DO I TEACH MY TODDLER TO EXPRESS FEELINGS?
There are special games in the Time-In ToolKit that you can play with your kids to help them recognize feelings and foster empathy. Games are an engaging way to teach kids social competence and skills so they feel comfortable expressing their feelings. This is important because negative feelings will tend to dominate in many facets of their life in the absence of adequately developed social skills.
For toddlers, “adequately developed social skills” means learning to play well with others, having the ability to show empathy, and being able to share things. Children at the age of two normally show empathy – for example, a child this age will pat a crying child on the back to comfort him.
There are many things you can do to help your child develop social and emotional skills. Children learn by imitating, which is why parents are such important role models. If your child sees you being helpful, sharing things and feelings, and being grateful, they will imitate you. Eventually, they will develop a firm grasp of how to interact with others both at home and outside it. Playing a fun game with them and saying “please” and “thank you” with a smile is a nice start.
It is essential to praise your child when they demonstrate good social behavior. This way, they understand which forms of behavior are praiseworthy and encouraged. They also feel better about themselves. This plays an important role in fostering a sense of emotional competence and empathy. Children become more mindful and thoughtful if a positive climate is created at home, in which they can share their feelings without fear of punishment.
HOW DO YOU TEACH CALMING STRATEGIES?
It’s never a good idea to wait until a tantrum to begin teaching a calming strategy. Calming strategies are best taught at non-stressful times and through playing games. The My Calming Strategies Poster, which is part of the Time-In Toolkit, presents different strategies that will help children notice, name, share, and regulate their bodies and their minds.
Interacting with your child and allowing them to interact with peers is the best way to teach calming strategies and social competence.
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