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Empowering Families: Trauma-Informed Coaching for Mindful Parenting

Have you ever felt like your past experiences made being a parent feel overwhelming? Like every day tasks were a battle, trying to balance old hurt while also trying to be there for your child, all while experiencing the joy and love parenting also brings? I’ve been there and it was on this journey that I discovered the power of blending trauma-informed coaching with positive parenting strategies.

Understanding Trauma-Informed Coaching

Trauma-informed coaching was a revelation to me. I’ve learned that it goes beyond acknowledging the present. It's a deep dive into past experiences, exploring their lasting impact on our lives. Trauma-informed coaching helped me to understand the significance of:

• Recognizing Trauma: Realizing how my past experiences were shaping my current behaviors and reactions.

• Emphasizing Safety: Creating an atmosphere where my children and I could feel safe, respected, and genuinely express ourselves.

Building Trust: Forming an authentic relationship where we could communicate openly, without fear of judgment.

Relating Past Traumas to Parenting Challenges

The ripples of trauma and past relationships can create patterns of behavior that surface in parenting.  For example, past fears might make a parent too protective. If someone has been through abuse, they might have a hard time setting rules, and if they’ve been let down before, they might find it hard to show love. Recognizing and understanding these behaviors is the first step to changing them. That’s where trauma-informed coaching can help, guiding parents to react differently and create a supportive space for their children.

Incorporating Positive Parenting: A Foundation of Understanding

Positive parenting is a way to help build that safe space for your child. It’s about helping children learn and grow through encouragement and understanding, rather than through punishment. This form of parenting includes:

• Active Listening: Truly paying attention and validating your child’s emotions without immediate judgment or solutions.

Setting Boundaries: Establishing structure and clarity around expectations and consequences.

• Emotional Validation: Letting your child know that their feelings are valid and essential.

The Simple Path to Building Self-Regulation Skills

When I think about my journey, developing self-regulation skills stands out as another key piece of the puzzle. Learning to manage our feelings and reactions is crucial. This is important not only for yourself but also for your children, as they are always watching and learning from what you do.

There were times when the day would get so overwhelming, my immediate reaction would be frustration or anger. I knew that reacting this way wasn’t helpful, especially in front of my kids. This is where practicing self-regulation comes in. This is all about taking a pause, a deep breath, and responding in a way that is calm and collected, even if the situation is stressful. Start small, practice taking deep breaths when you feel stressed, and gradually, you too will learn how to control your reactions better. Kids will also learn to manage their emotions better, just by watching you. 

Tying It with Positive Reinforcement

Incorporating positive reinforcement along with developing self-regulation skills can work wonders. It’s not just about noticing the good things our children do but actively acknowledging them, celebrating them. Trauma can make us feel unseen and unheard. So, when we actively see and hear the goodness in our children, it helps to heal those wounds, not just for them but for us too. It’s like saying, “I see you and I appreciate you.” This message carries weight, it builds a foundation of trust and self-worth that is so crucial for all of us on this healing journey.

Harmony in Approaches

Integrating the lessons from trauma-informed coaching with the foundations of positive parenting opened a new pathway for me. It also helped my children build resilience, equipped with coping strategies for emotional triggers. For me, it allowed a deeper, empathetic connection, solidifying trust and strengthening our bond. This harmonious approach is like a blueprint, tailored to align with our unique needs and sensitivities, fostering a household echoing with understanding and growth.

Embracing the Journey: Steps to Incorporate Trauma-Informed Coaching

This journey requires consistent effort and learning. It involves opening communication channels, engaging in self-reflection, adopting a growth mindset, and seeking expertise when needed. It’s not just about healing; it’s about moving forward with a richer, more insightful experience that strengthens the bond between you and your child.

This combination of trauma-informed coaching with positive parenting is indeed an investment in your future. It promises a legacy of harmonious homes, holistic development, and a society of emotionally resilient and empowered individuals.


Blending trauma-informed coaching with positive parenting is about cherishing the present and fostering a hopeful future. It's about creating a world where both children and parents flourish together, connected by mutual love and understanding. It was a journey of healing and growth, and it has made all the difference for me and my boys.

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Leselle Theus is a coach, writer, and speaker with a heart for the mom’s heart. She shares her unfiltered experience, learned coaching techniques, and passion for moms on social media, in her blog, in her one-on-one coaching sessions, and in her mom events. Leselle is committed to helping moms create personalized self-care plans unique to their personality, passions, and purpose. She is on a mission to remind moms to fill up before they can pour out.

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