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5 Connection-Based Ways To Support Your Child Through Shyness

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5 Connection-Based Ways To Support Your Child Through Shyness

by Guest Author on Apr 11 2022
Does your child seem slow to warm up or hesitant to jump into social situations? Here are 5 connection-based ways to support them through shyness (without muting their intuition or muddling their self-concept). 
Pretending To Be Calm Is Not Helping Our Children

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Pretending To Be Calm Is Not Helping Our Children

by Rebecca Eanes on Apr 11 2022
Many of us believe that if we can remain calm no matter what and teach our children to do the same then we have successfully mastered self-regulation. But true regulation has nothing to do with achieving a certain state. It's in noticing and responding to whatever emotion you are feeling.
What If My Partner Talked To Me That Way?

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What If My Partner Talked To Me That Way?

by Ashley Patek on Apr 11 2022
In the early years, we are the definitions of love for our children. Our behavior and words outline what is acceptable and what isn’t. Our response informs them of how to treat others and sets the pace for their own self-worth. Ask yourself, "What if my partner talked to me/treated me in the way I do my children?" What would come up for you?
Breaking The Cycle Of Fear-Based Parenting

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Breaking The Cycles Of Fear-Based Parenting

by Ashley Patek on Apr 11 2022
Here are 5 ways to use connection-based parenting (Over fear-based), and break the cycle of emotional wounding.
No bad kid

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There Is No Such Thing As A Bad Child

by Guest Author on Apr 11 2022
As a mother and trauma therapist, I can sniff out social trauma from a mile away.
3 Bunny Brain Breaks To Increase Emotional Regulation And Academic Learning

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3 Bunny Brain Breaks To Increase Emotional Regulation And Academic Learning

by Ashley Patek on Apr 04 2022
Multi-sensory movements specific to eye-teaming, hand-eye coordination, and whole-body awareness changes the architecture of the brain, bolstering social-emotional and academic learning. Here are 3 Bunny Brain Breaks to do with your kiddos this spring (Free Printable!). 
Toddlers And Meltdowns And Brain Development, Oh My!

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Meltdowns Develop Your Child's Brain When Met With Connection; Punishment Doesn't Work

by Ashley Patek on Apr 04 2022
Toddlers are one of the most authentic creatures on the planet, and also, arguably, the most misunderstood. On the surface, we see meltdowns, defiance, and limit testing. But there’s so much more than what meets the eye.
If It All Feels Heavy Today, Read This

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If It All Feels Heavy Today, Read This

by Rebecca Eanes on Apr 04 2022
There are millions of beautiful moments in parenting and also, sometimes, it feels hard. If you’re finding yourself in a heavy season today, or if you are having trouble recognizing yourself, here are 5 pieces of encouragement. 
3 Tools For When Parenting Assaults Your Senses

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3 Tools For When Parenting Assaults Your Senses

by Ashley Patek on Apr 04 2022
For all of you who deeply love your children AND deeply feel the assault to your senses that parenthood can bring, solidarity. You are not alone. Here are 3 tools for you to manage the sensory overwhelm. 
Safe Adults Don’t Ask Kids To Keep Secrets

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Safe Adults Don’t Ask Kids To Keep Secrets

by Ashley Patek on Mar 28 2022
When children learn that secrets are a normal part of a parent-child relationship, the little white lies can stack into something more serious and dangerous. In fact, they can be a key ingredient to abuse. Here's what to do instead. 
Your Child's Misbehavior Is A Distress Call. How You Answer Matters.

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Your Child's Misbehavior Is A Distress Call. How You Answer Matters.

by Rebecca Eanes on Mar 28 2022
Misbehavior is really a way of saying “I need help” when the words will not come. We wouldn’t answer “I need help” with “you’re in big trouble.” We’d say, “I can help. Here I am.” Answer the distress call. This is where true change begins. 
Feeling In Color

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Feeling In Color

by Guest Author on Mar 28 2022
Do you live in black and white or do you feel in color?
Stop Apologizing For Your Child's Emotions

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Your Child’s Unpleasant Emotions Don’t Need An Apology

by Ashley Patek on Mar 28 2022
We rarely apologize when our children feel happy or grateful or proud yet we often find ourselves apologizing for unpleasant emotions. "I'm sorry you feel mad ... sad ... disappointed." How does this impact our children and what can we do instead?
When Your Child Says "I Hate You!"

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When Your Child Says "I Hate You!"

by Guest Author on Mar 28 2022
When your child says “I hate you!” you might find yourself getting defensive or you may feel the urge to assert control over the situation. The key to getting to the root of the challenge is to look beyond the hurtful words to figure out what’s going on for them emotionally. What are they really saying?
Growing Beautiful Orchids - Helping Sensitive Children Thrive

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Growing Beautiful Orchids - Helping Sensitive Children Thrive

by Rebecca Eanes on Mar 21 2022
If you’ve been graced with an orchid child, here are three tips for helping them grow into their magnificence. 
Sometimes Our Kids Just Want Us To Listen: 3 Tools For Connected Parenting

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Sometimes Our Kids Just Want Us To Listen: 3 Tools For Connected Parenting

by Ashley Patek on Mar 21 2022
These tools are invitations for you to show up to your child’s wants and needs with curiosity instead of immediately throwing down the hammer with a rebuttal. Because maybe they do want that thing they are mentioning, or maybe they are just sharing with you their heart, and their only real ask is that you listen.
4 Powerful Ways To Ensure Your Kids Don’t Bear the Weight of Your Emotions

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4 Powerful Ways To Ensure Your Kids Don’t Bear the Weight of Your Emotions

by Rebecca Eanes on Mar 21 2022
When children feel responsible for taking care of their parents emotionally, it can cause a range of mental and emotional issues. Maybe this was a familiar story in your own childhood. Here are 4 ways we can break the cycle. 
Stop Saying, "He Hurts You Because He Likes You"

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Stop Saying, "He's Mean To You Because He Likes You"

by Ashley Patek on Mar 21 2022
"He's mean to you because he likes you" is a harmful message that perpetuates the cycle of bullying and programs our children to accept abuse. Here are 4 things our kids need to know about boundaries and consent.
5 False Toddler Myths

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5 False Toddler Myths

by Rebecca Eanes on Mar 21 2022
Toddlerhood is a precious time. We do our kids and ourselves a great injustice by assigning negative intent to their developmentally normal behaviors. Instead of going to war, let’s spend these quickly-passing years seeking to understand our little ones and rewrite the narrative on common myths.
10 Magical Outcomes to Dropping Your Expectations

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10 Magical Outcomes to Dropping Your Expectations

by Guest Author on Mar 20 2022
We subconsciously believe that if our children are misbehaving, then we did something wrong and we take action from a place of guilt. Here's how to flip your perspective and move from connection.