Break Shame Cycles
A World Where 250 Preschool Students Are Suspended Every Day
A world where 250 preschoolers are suspended per day in the US alone is a world that needs a course correction. Our school systems are failing to protect vulnerable student populations that, statistically speaking, are disproportionately impacted by ...
This Sucks and I Am Drowning, and Hey, How Are You Doing?
This essay is about motherhood, with no problems solved, and no solution-focused checklists or bullet points to be found. For when you need reminding that there is no single parenting manual or guidebook, this is the opposite of what it means to be k...
Raising Sons with Expansive, Tender Masculinity
“So are we really going to do this? Let him go to school in the Elsa costume?” Lloyd and I had just tucked our kids into bed, and in the morning was Storybook Character Day at school.
Don't Be On Behavior Patrol; Parent The Whole Child
With lots of positive interactions, a love-based mindset, and a positive approach to changing behavior, you can keep your connection with your kids strong as you enforce your limits, correct off-track behavior, and guide them through childhood.
How About a Little Less Guilt This Summer
The memes are swirling again. “Your children are only little once” and “enjoy every second.” But when you’re struggling, these well-meaning sentiments land like a swift slap to the cheek. Here are 3 steps to blast through the shame and reclaim your ...
A Guide For Gentle Parents: When Family Is Disrespectful To Your Child
Why do some adults talk to children as if their littleness is a sign of inferiority?
I guess you could say my “mama bear claws” came out last weekend.
My five-year-old was excited by all the fun of the day - a famil...
Do You Have the Courage to Imperfect?
Embracing your imperfect self, your imperfect children, and your imperfect life is an uncomfortable, vulnerable step to take. Here are some tips for making it happen.
How to Become a Cycle-Breaking Parent in 4 Steps
Unlike many of our parents who repressed, denied, ignored, or shamed their own feelings, resulting in abusive explosions and emotional neglect, becoming a cycle breaker means that we commit to FACE-ing our emotions with clarity and deep compassion. H...
Breaking Multi-Generational Shame Cycles
No one is born ashamed. It is a learned, self-conscious emotion. And, often, it is multi-generational. If we aren't aware of our own tendencies to shame, we won't notice when they get triggered. We'll just act them out onto our children, passing sham...
5 Powerful Phrases To Say To Children That Boost Brain Development
Our words have the power to build up our children, nurture and guide them. They also have the power to cripple, shrink, and wound. It is these 5 phrases, spoken by well-intended parents, that tend to miss the mark on paving pathways for self-di...