Raising Sons with Expansive, Tender Masculinity
“So are we really going to do this? Let him go to school in the Elsa costume?” Lloyd and I had just tucked our kids into bed, and in the morning was Storybook Character Day at school.
There's What Parents Say And What Kids Hear
Does it ever feel like there is a disconnect from what you say and what your kids hear? Like, somehow, asking your child not to jump on the couch or slap her brother translates into more jumping and continued slapping. Here are common parenting phras...
Moving Past Punishment With Compassion
Maybe what she needed was to be seen, heard, and validated. For someone to tell her that she didn’t have to be that scared child anymore. Here are 5 ways to show compassion to a fello...
10 Magical Outcomes to Dropping Your Expectations
We subconsciously believe that if our children are misbehaving, then we did something wrong and we take action from a place of guilt. Here's how to flip your perspective and mo...
Peaceful Parenting Tips: How To Do Time-Ins
This video is for anyone who has ever struggled with parenting (all of us), for those who are working to respond to their children instead of reacting to their behaviors, and anyone who wants to raise emotionally healthy humans but isn't sure where t...
Am I The Only Mom Who Does This?
As parents, we can feel alone, isolated, and buy into many of the parenting myths that lay on the guilt or leave us feeling less than enough.
To My Girlfriends, I Will Be Back
I know it feels like I disappeared since Motherhood. I am not ignoring you. I am doing my best, and I will be back.
They Saw A Bratty Kid, But That Wasn't The Whole Story
What they saw was a bratty child. A clingy child. A spoiled child. And underneath it all, they saw a mother who wasn’t doing it right. But that wasn't the whole story. Our behaviors were communication for so much more.
Breaking Multi-Generational Shame Cycles
No one is born ashamed. It is a learned, self-conscious emotion. And, often, it is multi-generational. If we aren't aware of our own tendencies to shame, we won't notice when they get triggered. We'll just act them out onto our children, passing sham...
Santa and The Elf On The Shelf Are Magical Until Used For Behavior Modification
Our words matter, and when we sing songs and play along with the notion that “you better be good... you better not cry. I’m telling you why” — aka you won’t get any presents — we are sending some pretty damaging messages to young children.