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How to Become a Cycle-Breaking Parent in 4 Steps

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How to Become a Cycle-Breaking Parent in 4 Steps

by Guest Author on May 30 2022
Unlike many of our parents who repressed, denied, ignored, or shamed their own feelings, resulting in abusive explosions and emotional neglect, becoming a cycle breaker means that we commit to FACE-ing our emotions with clarity and deep compassion. Here's how to use FACE (Feel, Amplify, Connect, and Embrace), a 4-step process, to break cycles.
Parenting DUI's Affect A Child's Self-Worth

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Parenting DUI's Affect A Child's Self-Worth

by Ashley Patek on May 24 2022
In all of our loving intent, we sometimes commit parenting DUI's, which can send our children into a protective response. Here are 3 ways to break the cycle, not only for your child but for your inner child, too.
How To Rediscover Emotions That Were Suppressed In Childhood

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How To Rediscover Emotions That Were Suppressed In Childhood

by Ashley Patek on May 02 2022
Sometimes all that we need is a safe place to feel, except we don’t know how to feel a full spectrum of emotions because we were taught not to, and even if we did feel, we lack the language to communicate those feelings. Here's how to change the narrative not only for our mental health but our kids' too. 
How To Reduce Your Child's Exposure To Shame

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How To Reduce Your Child's Exposure To Shame

by Rebecca Eanes on Apr 25 2022
Shame eats away at a child’s core emotional need to feel loved and connected, leaving them feeling small, unworthy, flawed, and unacceptable. As we learn to heal our shame wounds, we give our children chances for a healthy and happy emotional life. Here are 3 shame-free discipline tactics. 
Boundaries Give My Child This Gift

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Boundaries Give My Child This Gift

by Guest Author on Apr 25 2022
Sometimes the desire to avoid setting boundaries is a control strategy based on our own discomfort with conflict. When we blast through the assumption that being a good parent means avoiding conflict, we gift our children the ability to know who they are, what they want, and how to ask for it - something that was not always safe or allowed for our child-selves.
I Messed Up. Have I Messed Up My Kids?

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I Messed Up. Have I Messed Up My Kids?

by Ashley Patek on Apr 25 2022
You know you are a parent if you have ever questioned your qualifications for the job. You may be asking yourself, How do I know I am not messing up my children every time I pitfall into conditioned habits? Whatever your wounding patterns are, these tips can help you embrace your enoughness as a cycle breaker.
Breaking The Cycle Of Fear-Based Parenting

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Breaking The Cycles Of Fear-Based Parenting

by Ashley Patek on Apr 11 2022
Here are 5 ways to use connection-based parenting (Over fear-based), and break the cycle of emotional wounding.
Feeling In Color

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Feeling In Color

by Guest Author on Mar 28 2022
Do you live in black and white or do you feel in color?
Stop Apologizing For Your Child's Emotions

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Your Child’s Unpleasant Emotions Don’t Need An Apology

by Ashley Patek on Mar 28 2022
We rarely apologize when our children feel happy or grateful or proud yet we often find ourselves apologizing for unpleasant emotions. "I'm sorry you feel mad ... sad ... disappointed." How does this impact our children and what can we do instead?
4 Powerful Ways To Ensure Your Kids Don’t Bear the Weight of Your Emotions

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4 Powerful Ways To Ensure Your Kids Don’t Bear the Weight of Your Emotions

by Rebecca Eanes on Mar 21 2022
When children feel responsible for taking care of their parents emotionally, it can cause a range of mental and emotional issues. Maybe this was a familiar story in your own childhood. Here are 4 ways we can break the cycle. 
4 Effective Ways To Break The Generational Cycle Of Yelling

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4 Effective Ways To Break The Generational Cycle Of Yelling

by Ashley Patek on Feb 21 2022
I yell. I was yelled at. My guess is, my parents were yelled at too. Poor emotional regulation - and its wounding - has been handed down from one generation to another. Here are 4 effective ways to break the cycle so that our children don't have to carry that shame. It stops with us.
Feeling Emotions As An Adult When Taught Not To As A Child

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Feeling Emotions As An Adult When Taught Not To As A Child

by Ashley Patek on Feb 14 2022
When we learn to suppress unpleasant emotions as a child, we become adults whose conditioned self masquerades as our authentic self. This dampens our human experience (and affects our mental health and parenting). Here's how to break the cycle. 
Finding Freedom From Guilt To Reclaim Your Authentic Self

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Finding Freedom From Guilt To Reclaim Your Authentic Self

by Guest Author on Feb 14 2022
Motherhood can feel like the synonym of should. No matter what we do, there will always be someone to tell us we didn't do enough, or maybe that we did too much. Learn what your guilt is telling you, and how to move through it to find your authentic self! 
3 Successful And Unique Alternatives To Yelling For A More Peaceful Home

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3 Successful Alternatives To Yelling For A More Peaceful Home

by Ashley Patek on Feb 07 2022
One of the hardest parts of parenting is not the learning. It is the unlearning. When yelling is your natural impulse, these three tips can help you channel what you are feeling in a healthy, productive way. 
3 Powerful Ways Parents Can Break The Cycle Of Emotional Wounding

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3 Powerful Ways Parents Can Break The Cycle Of Emotional Wounding

by Guest Author on Jan 27 2022
Want to react to your children less with yelling, lecturing, and punitive measures - to parent differently than you were parented? This is how we break the cycle.
This is the One Thing All Children Need

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This is the One Thing All Children Need

by Rebecca Eanes on Jan 27 2022
Can you guess what it is?
The Importance Of An Apology

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The Importance Of An Apology To A Child's Self-Worth

by Ashley Patek on Jan 03 2022
When we choose image maintenance over connection, we actually hurt our relationship with our children. Here's why apologizing to our children is one of the most important things we can do. 
What Can I Do When I Feel Triggered By My Kids?

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What Can I Do When I Feel Triggered By My Kids?

by Ashley Patek on Dec 15 2021
Why do we feel triggered when our kids do that thing they do, and what tools do we have to keep us from meeting their immaturity with our own? Here are 3 preventive tips and 4 tools for in the heat of the moment. 
Why Do My Kids Trigger Me?

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Why Do My Kids Trigger Me?

by Ashley Patek on Dec 13 2021
What is a trigger, why do we have them and why are we so dang triggered by our kids?!
I Didn't Make My Kids Sit On Santa's Lap And They Are Better For It

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I Didn't Make My Kids Sit On Santa's Lap And They Are Better For It

by Ashley Patek on Nov 29 2021
Children are wired to seek approval from their caregivers because it is how they are designed to survive. How we respond as parents to our children’s intuition and their bids to voice their consent greatly impacts their ability to speak their truth, set boundaries, and trust who they are. Read more.