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How To Reduce Your Child's Exposure To Shame

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How To Reduce Your Child's Exposure To Shame

by Rebecca Eanes on Apr 25 2022
Shame eats away at a child’s core emotional need to feel loved and connected, leaving them feeling small, unworthy, flawed, and unacceptable. As we learn to heal our shame wounds, we give our children chances for a healthy and happy emotional life. Here are 3 shame-free discipline tactics. 
A Strong Relationship Will Give You More Authority, Not Less

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A Strong Relationship With Your Child Gives You More Authority, Not Less

by Ashley Patek on Apr 25 2022
As children learn to regulate emotions and learn higher-level skills through the safe space of a supportive caregiver, not only does it strengthen your relationship but it gives you more authority. Your children will want to work with you more than they want to work against you. Here's how. 
Boundaries Give My Child This Gift

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Boundaries Give My Child This Gift

by Guest Author on Apr 25 2022
Sometimes the desire to avoid setting boundaries is a control strategy based on our own discomfort with conflict. When we blast through the assumption that being a good parent means avoiding conflict, we gift our children the ability to know who they are, what they want, and how to ask for it - something that was not always safe or allowed for our child-selves.
I Messed Up. Have I Messed Up My Kids?

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I Messed Up. Have I Messed Up My Kids?

by Ashley Patek on Apr 25 2022
You know you are a parent if you have ever questioned your qualifications for the job. You may be asking yourself, How do I know I am not messing up my children every time I pitfall into conditioned habits? Whatever your wounding patterns are, these tips can help you embrace your enoughness as a cycle breaker.
The Way You Perceive Your Child Affects How You Respond To Them

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The Way You Perceive Your Child Affects How You Respond To Them

by Rebecca Eanes on Apr 18 2022
Is your child's challenging behavior bad behavior or is it a distress call? Your perspective will decide. Perspective is the lens through which you view the world. It determines how you perceive your children. By changing how we see our children, we change how we respond to them. 
Accepting Ourselves and Our Children While Embracing Growth and Change

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Accepting Ourselves And Our Children While Embracing Growth And Change

by Rebecca Eanes on Apr 18 2022
The desire to do better can exist in and of itself. It doesn’t have to be driven by a dislike or disgust of who you are now. Here are 3 steps toward self-acceptance.
Three Steps To Shift From Frustration To Connection

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Three Steps To Shift From Frustration To Connection

by Guest Author on Apr 18 2022
Undoubtedly, the most frustrating moments in parenting are those that happen to us every day. When we understand what is causing our frustration, we are able to move from connection. Here are 3 tips. 
The Unusual Way To Conquer The Loneliness And Isolation Of Parenthood

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As A Parent, I Miss Feeling Seen - How To Cope With The Loneliness Of Parenthood

by Rebecca Eanes on Apr 11 2022
Without a village, parenthood can feel pretty isolating and lonely. Not being seen and connected often feels like a threat to our emotional and psychological well-being. Emotions Researcher Brené Brown inspires an unusual way out of loneliness and into self-acceptance. 
5 Connection-Based Ways To Support Your Child Through Shyness

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5 Connection-Based Ways To Support Your Child Through Shyness

by Guest Author on Apr 11 2022
Does your child seem slow to warm up or hesitant to jump into social situations? Here are 5 connection-based ways to support them through shyness (without muting their intuition or muddling their self-concept). 
Pretending To Be Calm Is Not Helping Our Children

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Pretending To Be Calm Is Not Helping Our Children

by Rebecca Eanes on Apr 11 2022
Many of us believe that if we can remain calm no matter what and teach our children to do the same then we have successfully mastered self-regulation. But true regulation has nothing to do with achieving a certain state. It's in noticing and responding to whatever emotion you are feeling.
I Have More Patience With My Kids Than I Do My Partner. Is That Wrong?

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I Have More Patience With My Kids Than I Do My Partner. Is That Wrong?

by Ashley Patek on Apr 11 2022
My patience threshold for my children far outweighs that for my husband. Here's why, and how my husband and I found a way to reconnect. 
What If My Partner Talked To Me That Way?

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What If My Partner Talked To Me That Way?

by Ashley Patek on Apr 11 2022
In the early years, we are the definitions of love for our children. Our behavior and words outline what is acceptable and what isn’t. Our response informs them of how to treat others and sets the pace for their own self-worth. Ask yourself, "What if my partner talked to me/treated me in the way I do my children?" What would come up for you?
Breaking The Cycle Of Fear-Based Parenting

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Breaking The Cycles Of Fear-Based Parenting

by Ashley Patek on Apr 11 2022
Here are 5 ways to use connection-based parenting (Over fear-based), and break the cycle of emotional wounding.
No bad kid

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There Is No Such Thing As A Bad Child

by Guest Author on Apr 11 2022
As a mother and trauma therapist, I can sniff out social trauma from a mile away.
3 Bunny Brain Breaks To Increase Emotional Regulation And Academic Learning

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3 Bunny Brain Breaks To Increase Emotional Regulation And Academic Learning

by Ashley Patek on Apr 04 2022
Multi-sensory movements specific to eye-teaming, hand-eye coordination, and whole-body awareness changes the architecture of the brain, bolstering social-emotional and academic learning. Here are 3 Bunny Brain Breaks to do with your kiddos this spring (Free Printable!). 
Toddlers And Meltdowns And Brain Development, Oh My!

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Meltdowns Develop Your Child's Brain When Met With Connection; Punishment Doesn't Work

by Ashley Patek on Apr 04 2022
Toddlers are one of the most authentic creatures on the planet, and also, arguably, the most misunderstood. On the surface, we see meltdowns, defiance, and limit testing. But there’s so much more than what meets the eye.
If It All Feels Heavy Today, Read This

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If It All Feels Heavy Today, Read This

by Rebecca Eanes on Apr 04 2022
There are millions of beautiful moments in parenting and also, sometimes, it feels hard. If you’re finding yourself in a heavy season today, or if you are having trouble recognizing yourself, here are 5 pieces of encouragement. 
3 Tools For When Parenting Assaults Your Senses

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3 Tools For When Parenting Assaults Your Senses

by Ashley Patek on Apr 04 2022
For all of you who deeply love your children AND deeply feel the assault to your senses that parenthood can bring, solidarity. You are not alone. Here are 3 tools for you to manage the sensory overwhelm. 
Safe Adults Don’t Ask Kids To Keep Secrets

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Safe Adults Don’t Ask Kids To Keep Secrets

by Ashley Patek on Mar 28 2022
When children learn that secrets are a normal part of a parent-child relationship, the little white lies can stack into something more serious and dangerous. In fact, they can be a key ingredient to abuse. Here's what to do instead. 
Your Child's Misbehavior Is A Distress Call. How You Answer Matters.

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Your Child's Misbehavior Is A Distress Call. How You Answer Matters.

by Rebecca Eanes on Mar 28 2022
Misbehavior is really a way of saying “I need help” when the words will not come. We wouldn’t answer “I need help” with “you’re in big trouble.” We’d say, “I can help. Here I am.” Answer the distress call. This is where true change begins.